11. “I Don’t Know”
I don’t know a lot of things. Writing today’s blog actually started off as a joke, but I thought it’d be a perfect blog post to start this New Year, with. So, if you sit down and have a one-on-one conversation with me, you’ll know that there are a lot of things, I know, and then there are a lot of things, I don’t know. Isn’t that how it is, with everyone? Nobody knows everything. Some may act like they do. But, every one can’t possibly know everything.
Many people find it unnerving to say, “I don’t know”, because they think it makes them vulnerable and that people will make fun of them. Which is understandable, but it doesn’t have to be this way. Trust me when I say this that lately, I have noticed that allowing you to be vulnerable isn’t as bad as it seems. Yes, all you ‘House Of Cards’ watchers will call me a fool for saying this. But, I don’t mean spilling your deepest darkest secrets to anyone and everyone you meet. I am saying start with yourself. Accept who you are for who you are. Let yourself be vulnerable to yourself.
So what if you don’t know things? So what if you make mistakes? So what if people make fun of you? So what? People are so afraid to let others make fun of them. And I love making fun of myself, in front of others and when I’m alone, for all the stupid things, I do, because, I know who I am. I accept who I am. A man I have massive respect for, once said, “Never forget what you are, the rest of the world will not. Wear it like armour and it can never be used to hurt you”. When people tease me or make fun of me, being offended is the last thing on my mind. I join them in making fun of me. Don’t worry; I know that there is a line between a joke and an insult. And when people cross that line, I know how to give it back. And to be honest, even if they did mean it as an insult, I don’t really lose any sleep over it. Them insulting me doesn’t change who I am.
Saying that you don’t know something is something I find extremely courageous. Now, don’t think I am only saying this because I say ‘I don’t know’ all the time. I genuinely mean it. It shows how mature that person is, to accept that they don’t know something. Saying ‘I don’t know’ may sound so insignificant and natural, but when was the last time you said, ‘I don’t know’? Even if it is something as silly as saying ‘I don’t know’ when a teacher asks you a question in class, is something people find very hard to do.
I always think of what’s the worst that could happen if you say ‘I don’t know’. The other person may think you’re dumb? You’ll get kicked out of class? You’ll be made fun of? Your friends will not want to be friends with you, anymore? SO, WHAT? You can always go back and learn about the things you don’t know, if it really bothers you. It’s never too late. So, technically, you aren’t losing anything.
And now, I’ll be speaking to the high-school goers, who read my blog. If they don’t want to be friends with you because you don’t know something, then you shouldn’t be friends with such individuals, if I’m honest. Find friends who accept you for who you are and don’t care if you know only so much and don’t know something. But, I guess this applies for a person of any age group. Let go of such people who think they know everything and look down upon you for not knowing something. You don’t need such narrow-minded people in your life. And to be honest, life’s too short to figure out who knows more.
Do not be afraid to say ‘I don’t know’. Accept yourself for who you are. Remember this quote, “The lion doesn’t concern himself with the opinions of a sheep” and try to live by it, in the most humble way possible. Hope you had a great first week. Hope you have a lovely week ahead. See you, next Sunday.